7 signs of body language can help you determine whether you can trust
someone
Regardless of the
conversation, people can't always control the message their bodies convey. Understanding the basics of body language can
help you identify red marks before you put your time and effort into dealing
with someone. More importantly, it is the distinction between shyness and
dishonesty when reading body language. This is a great way to see if Miranda next
door is really as beautiful as she pretends.
In
I've done research into the different red markers of body
language, the purpose behind it, and how you can find out if you can trust
someone.
§ They avoid eye contact or rub their eyes so they don't look suspicious.
Changing eyes are not always a sign that
someone is lying. But if you
notice that a person is constantly looking away from you (often to the top left
or right corner of his eyes), he may be a liar. However, do not confuse looking down with
lateral consideration. People usually look down when they try to remember
something. You can ask
follow-up questions and ask them to reverse their story to see if they are
lying.
Most people are aware of this technique
and try to avoid eye contact in the first place. For example, most
experienced poker players rub their eyes during tricks to create natural
movements. Healthy eye
communication periodically wanders in different directions during conversation,
along with expressions to respond to information.
§ They are always on the phone to avoid confrontation.
If you see someone's
eyes glued to their screen all day, it may indicate their fear of confrontation
or anxiety about text messages from someone else appearing at any time. It can be worrying if your partner or friend
suddenly formed the habit. For example, if they struggle to have a
conversation during mealtimes and spend their time constantly searching for
notifications, try monitoring what they're doing and confronting them if
necessary.
§ They tend to stay away from you during conversations.
In general, people or
couples tend to lean towards each other through their bodies, feet or heads
during conversations. If you notice
a change in their gestures and the way they answer your questions, it may be a
sign that they are hiding something. Sometimes, this mile away can also be by default, as you have to wait more
than 6 hours to get a response from them. People may use this technique to distance
themselves from you.
This may also mean that someone is not
really interested in the conversation and prefers to be somewhere else. In
this case, try to avoid pressing the conversation too hard and accept that this
person is not worth your time.
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A quick flash may indicate their
discomfort.
Flashing is normal. But watch out for the unnatural flash, where
someone blinks too much or too little. Repeated flashes indicate that a
person is trying to pretend to be someone who is not. Whether it's a false interest in conversation
or lying, look for this behavior when you talk to others. For example, a
experienced magician may blink slower than usual to pretend to act normally
about the next magic trick.
§ They held their arms and legs to distract attention from them.
Studies have shown
that 55% of our talk is non-verbal, and arms and legs are a large part of it. Cross arms can refer to defensive or
self-protection, while cross legs can indicate discomfort with
someone. Hidden signs such as excessive arm enlargement may make a person
seem more manipulative and commanding.
People often use this body language
unintentionally to distract attention from themselves. As for verbal
communication, they avoid talking about themselves and are able to turn every
question towards you.
§ They over-gesture their hands.
Using hand gestures is good when you talk to
people. Helps people
emphasize their key points and keeps others engaged in the
conversation. However, just like anything else, hand gestures are good
when done in moderation. In fact, research
conducted in 2015 revealed that people who point with both hands are likely to
be liars. Overuse of
hand gestures makes a person less believable and more tense. This is also
true when their gestures do not correspond to their words and may give the
impression that they do not know what they are saying.
You can discover healthy gestures by
noticing their hands. Ideally, their hands should be at waist level and
used at controlled moments. Hand gestures
also slow down when people stop talking.
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Their voice cuts as they talk to you.
Watch out
for voice changes during conversations. Liars often move between ordinary
voices to a higher tone than honest people. Although a high tone or
crackling doesn't guarantee they're lying, the high-pitched sound associated
with other red flags of body language can help you determine whether you should
trust someone.
Have you ever encountered any of these red
marks? If yes, how did you deal with it?