nervousness in women
Causes of excess nervousness in women
There are
many causes of nervousness and anger that both men and women share, but there
are several reasons that are specific to women alone, the most important of
which are the following:
1.
Hormonal imbalance:
Hormonal imbalance in women can occur for
many different and varied physical reasons, such as: diabetes, hyperthyroidism,
polycystic ovaries, and other reasons, such as: malnutrition and insomnia,
which raises levels of nervousness and anger.
2.
Premenstrual Syndrome:
Premenstrual
syndrome (PMS) leads to irritability and mood swings that precede menstruation
by a week or two, and it is very common in females, as it occurs for 90% of
them, and includes a group of symptoms, such as: headache, fatigue, bad mood,
anxiety, and crying Easily, flatulence in the abdomen, and the occurrence of
constipation or diarrhea.
3.
Premenstrual dysphoric disorder:
Premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD), which occurs
in 5% of females of childbearing age, causes severe outbursts of anger, anxiety
and depression.
A study conducted by Raymond Digiosippi,
head of the Department of Psychology at Saint John University in New York on
1,300 people aged 18-90 years, indicates that the degrees of anger vary between
men and women, and there are differences in the way they are exposed to anger.
Men deal
with anger more impulsively and aggressively. They often have a vindictive
motive for anger, and women are less aggressive but more resentful and remain
angry for a relatively longer period, using what is called indirect aggression,
which may lead to the inability to talk to the anger again, Several studies
have proven that anger and the differences in its degrees between the sexes
gradually decrease with age.
Ø How to contain a woman when
angry:
Some psychological and physical causes beyond a
person’s control lead to excessive anger and nervousness.
A woman can be contained when she feels angry by
several things, including the following:
1)
Help her relax:
An angry woman can be calmed and helped to
relax in several ways, the most important of which is to go to a quiet and
comfortable place, ask her to sit upright, enter the deep breathing exercise
through the nose several times.
repeat the
process of inhalation and exhalation for at least 5 minutes, and she can also
be advised to listen to calm music and conduct Some exercises to relieve
stress, and give her a feeling of happiness and activity, which positively
affects her mood.
2)
Support her:
An angry woman can be calmed by supporting and
supporting her by telling her that she is not alone, asking her what can be
done for her, trying to find out the cause of her anger and offering to help
her and relieving her of the burden, even if temporarily. You can also joke
with her to draw a smile on her face and adjust her mood.
3)
listen to it:
You should listen to the woman only when she is
ready to talk about her pain or the problem that was the cause of her anger,
and avoid trying to push her to talk about it, or trying to fix the problem
before she asks for it, as it is important to focus attention on the woman
herself.
refrain from expressing any opinion or judgment
Before she finishes talking, by smiling only and making head nods that indicate
listening to her so that she feels interested in her speech, and you must make
eye contact with her, turn around to face her, and make the feet uncrossed.
4)
Solve the problem:
It should
be avoided starting to solve the problem before the woman herself asks for
advice or help in solving it, and it is possible to start by clearly defining
the problem, knowing what is going on in her head and its goals.
Make a
list of a set of possible solutions that can satisfy her and achieve its goals,
and write down the pros and cons of each solution then Present it to her and
allow her to make the decision she sees fit without interfering with it.
5)
Show her affection:
Physical
contact, such as embracing a woman, patting her on her back, or holding her
hand, is one of the methods that provide her with comfort, reduce stress, and
improve her mood.
6)
Self-control:
The counseling center at Eastern Washington
University advises controlling emotions while calming an angry woman,
maintaining composure, and trying to calm herself before starting to calm her
down, even if there is a logical explanation, it can be postponed until she
finishes her anger, as there is no point in Provide any explanation or excuse
during her tantrum.
7)
Apologizing to her:
A woman can be apologized if her anger was caused by
a contrary act on the part of the person, as it can be explained to her about
the reason for this act, and that perhaps this person was not thinking
rationally at that moment, causing her unintentionally anger, and assuring her
that this problem will not pass Without solving it and satisfying it, and
making promises to it that it will not happen again.